Hi! Welcome to Navigating Vita, a blog written by me, Laura Roe Stevens. I am a veteran journalist (See CV Here) author of three novels, writing my fourth, yoga teacher and full time single mother. I am a Buddhist-leaning meditator, an abundance consciousness soul who strives for minimalism, ever-teachable, always expanding, and focussed on increasing patience and understanding for all my faults and yours, lol. I feel as if the more I learn and grow, the less I need to be happy. In August 2017 I gave up social media for a year cleanse, and in November 2017 I gave up alcohol. One new friend described me as “a unicorn”.
In this blog, you will find excerpts of my novels, interviews with published novelists, book reviews, as well as journalism articles and rants on balance! I started this blog to survive. I needed to find other people out there going through what I was: parenting a baby solo. I was lost and exhausted. Life is much better for me today, although will always have challenges. I am still committed to helping the hardest working and most important segment of our society: single parents. Of course, I am more than just a single parent. But if you are on the same path, perhaps this experience, like mine, has completely shaken your very foundation? I find that every aspect of my life has changed over the last nine years of parenting full-time solo. My two boys are worth it. Telling someone who wants a date with me that I have no free weekends, well, it takes a special soul to understand my situation.
Many years ago, when I first started this blog, I wrote the following, and it still holds true:
Navigating Vita has been inspired by two main areas of my life. First, by my journalistic career. I’m endlessly fascinated by the world we live in and how we live our lives. I’m intrigued with how we navigate through the messes to build clarity, strength and well-being. In my work published in national magazines and news outlets—whether it’s a story about the trend of stay-at-home dads, parenting strategies, or amazing cancer survivors (CancerFeature_Pulse)
—I’m focussed on reporting, not just on expert advice and research, but about our underlying motivations. What keeps us going? What helps us stay healthy, sane, compassionate? How can we better understand complex behavior, addiction, mental disorders—or even the common two-year-old temper tantrum?
The other motivation for this blog is very personal. In the span of three years, I have endured just about every major life stressor possible. I read somewhere that the loss of a loved one, loss of a job, transitioning through an international move, having a baby, and going through a divorce are the major stressors in life. In a very short span of time I felt the jagged edge of each one of these. And what I have discovered in the past two and a half years—while raising a baby and my older son alone—is that I am blessed. I’m stronger because of it. I’m finally at peace with myself. And while being a single mom of a three-year-old and a ten-year-old is insanely challenging, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m the lucky one. (But coming to these realizations hasn’t been easy!)
It’s a bumpy road for sure. Having a sense of humor is essential. Deep breathing is better than drinking too much vino and venting—I’ve learned the hard way. And I’m still learning every day.
I hope that in my search for answers, strategies and inspiration, you’ll keep coming back. I will keep exploring the important issues of our lives and I hope that we can build a dialogue that is much more than one of survivorship or venting, but of support for a more compassionate world.
Thanks for reading, Laura xo