When Did You Last Have a BIG HUG?

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Photo by: by ラルフ – Ralf RKLFoto

When is the last time you received a big bear hug? The kind that doesn’t release instantly? The kind where you feel accepted, supported and loved for who you are?Fake, pseudo LA hugs where a person lightly touches your shoulder-blades and releases, while looking away to see who witnessed it, doesn’t count! I mean, good friend hugs.

And when did you last give a big bear hug, and to whom?

Hugs are so healing. And when life is kicking you when you’re already down, you really need one. Amma the Hugging Saint lives her life giving hugs to relieve suffering (while also raising money to support charities working to reduce poverty and help the environment). But if you, like me, find yourself rarely hugging others deeply and authentically, ask yourself why? Or do you, like me, often pull away before the hugger is done, feeling embarrassed, or uncomfortable because you weren’t raised in a hugging, loving environment and aren’t used to letting others hug you?

I’ve come to know a few things with complete certainty. One is that if you didn’t receive hugs as a child, you need the power of hugs in your life today. Start by giving them and receiving them. Hug your children. Hug your best friend, sibling, parent, dog, deeply today. I gave my sister five hugs yesterday. It felt amazing!

To give and receive love requires compassion. In a me, me, and more me-focussed world of today, let go of yourself and your needs for just a moment and embrace mindfully, focussing on the other person with complete compassion. What a gift! To do so says: ‘I see your pain, I feel your pain, and I wish I could help.’

A big hug, like the best gifts in life, doesn’t cost a thing, and is exchanged on a deep, emotional level without the need for words.

This virtual hug is from me to you.

Have a beautiful Sunday.

Laura xo

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2 responses to “When Did You Last Have a BIG HUG?

  1. I’ve often observed that people find it uncomfortable to even smile at strangers. Often, you wait for the other person to do it. Sometimes, you do not get a smile back, but that’s okay. You can always smile for yourself to make yourself feel better. And does it cost anything at all? Nope!

    • There is an old man who is a crossing guard at a busy intersection in my beach town. He smiles and waves at all the cars flying past between helping kids cross to get to an elementary school. He’s so much more than a crossing guard as his positive energy is infectious. He has a limp, must be pushing 70, and wears a veterans jacket. Love him. He reminds us that we are as happy as we make up our minds to be and that when our vibrations are high, we can lift up others. Have a great day! 🙂

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